Came to believe a power greater than myself could restore me to sanity. By far my favorite Step, Step 2 bounces around in my brain on a daily bases. The promise I yearned to accept! Sanity! Sanity! I wanted sanity and serenity. A blogger friend of mine later created the term Serantity. Serenity and sanity together Seranity. I…
Recovery
Are You Powerless in Your Life- Step 1
Ah the feeling of being powerless. Love it just love it-not! It is an acquired taste at best for a person that struggles with codependency. Here we go! Step 1 Came to believe we were powerless over_________ and our lives had become unmanageable . What does powerless mean? Powerless /pou(ə)rləs/ adjective …
How to Handle Your Life: When Your Husband Enters Rehab
OK, here is the deal. When your husband enters rehab, he needs space, time, and the ability to process his thoughts while learning to live without his go-to drug of choice. What are you doing while your husband enters rehab? The Same Thing You Have Always Done Yes, you, the wife, are left at home to…
Create Community – A Must for Those Living with An Addicted Loved One
I know what made me do it. The church down the road had a nursery. Community, I needed to create a community for myself and my little boys. The tiny country church we attended before our sons were born tried to help with nursery care but I needed more. When my husband left for three…
How to Decide to Leave An Addict?
I remember standing in the sunny kitchen of our big, big house. My toddler and infant playing on the floor in the sunlight. I asked my Al-Anon buddy on the phone; “is it time to leave him?’ When do you leave an addict? The woman I spoke with that morning knew the question well. Two children of…
Are you Married to a Dry Drunk? How to tell.
After long years of waiting, praying, and most likely a crisis your husband is now substance free. Did you see large changes in the beginning and now old familiar patterns are starting to creep back into your married life? Are you married to a dry drunk? Addiction is Only a Symptom Bill W., one of the…
Your Husband is Sober, Now What?
OK, you have prayed for this, begged for this, maybe ruined your life all for the cause of a sober husband. Then it happened. If your story is like mine the sober moment happened out of crisis all of a sudden. Wham! Your husband is sober. Your prayers worked! Now what? Sit on your hands?…
Can Forgiveness Make You Stronger?
“Addiction robs us of the things (and people) we care about the most.” Bill W, Founder Of Alcoholics Anonymous. “Family was foremost to Dad.” (Dewberry, p.18) Three Weeks to Forgiveness Three Weeks to Forgiveness: God’s Redemption in the Dark Places of Addiction delves lovingly into the confusing messages and home life children of alcoholics. This book…
Children of Addiction: God’s Redemption of the Dark Places
Addiction comes to rob us of those we hold most dear. God’s redemption lights up the dark places with a glow the world can’t provide. We live in a culture that encourages us not to take our own suffering seriously… Alice Miller, The Drama of the Gifted Child Children living with an addicted parent struggle…
How to Pray for your Addict Husband
Pray! Pray for my addict husband I screamed at God. He is my enemy! He is responsible for all this mess! Walking the dog in the early morning while my husband and my young boys slept, I talked or more often yelled at God. Exhausted, I struggled to hold it together during every day…
