I remember standing in the sunny kitchen of our big, big house. My toddler and infant playing on the floor in the sunlight. I asked my Al-Anon buddy on the phone; “is it time to leave him?’ When do you leave an addict? The woman I spoke with that morning knew the question well. Two children of…
Recovery
Are you Married to a Dry Drunk? How to tell.
After long years of waiting, praying, and most likely a crisis your husband is now substance free. Did you see large changes in the beginning and now old familiar patterns are starting to creep back into your married life? Are you married to a dry drunk? Addiction is Only a Symptom Bill W., one of the…
Your Husband is Sober, Now What?
OK, you have prayed for this, begged for this, maybe ruined your life all for the cause of a sober husband. Then it happened. If your story is like mine the sober moment happened out of crisis all of a sudden. Wham! Your husband is sober. Your prayers worked! Now what? Sit on your hands?…
Can Forgiveness Make You Stronger?
“Addiction robs us of the things (and people) we care about the most.” Bill W, Founder Of Alcoholics Anonymous. “Family was foremost to Dad.” (Dewberry, p.18) Three Weeks to Forgiveness Three Weeks to Forgiveness: God’s Redemption in the Dark Places of Addiction delves lovingly into the confusing messages and home life children of alcoholics. This book…
Children of Addiction: God’s Redemption of the Dark Places
846fc76298e7d840856708b6abff8243e4eb44215f81b39dfa Addiction comes to rob us of those we hold most dear. God’s redemption lights up the dark places with a glow the world can’t provide. We live in a culture that encourages us not to take our own suffering seriously… Alice Miller, The Drama of the Gifted Child Children living with an addicted parent…
How to Pray for your Addict Husband
Pray! Pray for my addict husband I screamed at God. He is my enemy! He is responsible for all this mess! Walking the dog in the early morning while my husband and my young boys slept, I talked or more often yelled at God. Exhausted, I struggled to hold it together during every day…
Children of Addicts: Who Is Parenting the Children?
I remember kneeling to pray between the doors to my two boys rooms. Who is parenting the children I thought. Children of addicts struggle with the long-term effects of family trauma. Lord, I cried out, “I don’t know what to do. I am an angry exhausted parent. I say things I don’t mean, get frustrated…
Resources for Children in Addictive Families
My first child laughed a lot. The angry tension between his Dad and I only made him laugh more. At times this calmed us down and we laughed too. According to the Mayo Clinic laughter can: Stimulate many organs. Laughter enhances your intake of oxygen-rich air, stimulates your heart, lungs, and muscles, and increases the…
I am Not My Addiction: God Says I Am
I am not my addiction. I am a child of God. Hello, My name is Tanya and I am a codependent. Hello, my name is Sally and I am an alcoholic. Phrases so iconic in our culture that anyone can finish the sentence for you. God never design me to be anything but his child. When…
Calling An Addiction Intervention Specialist
I just did it one day. I called the Addiction Intervention Specialist. lAfter reading Why Don’t They Just Quit: Hope for Families Struggling with Addiction, I just picked up the phone and called Joe Herzanek. I sat on that ordinary day with no big crisis looming and listened to Joe talk truth to me. Joe introduced me in his…